The Difference between Love and Lust

Before you guys all google the title…with all due respect, I wrote this before I googled it >_> so as far as I’m concerned…the title is original

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I was just staring blankly at my laptop’s monitor when I just happened to have the face of the woman I’m in love with popped into my head. I don’t know…just a *pop*, and like a bubble, suddenly disappears as if it never existed. I guess having her face as an image in my mind and the part where the image disappears is the way reality reminds me that fantasy will only be fantasy unless a person makes it real. 

Speaking of fantasy…is it okay to, rather, is it morally accepted to fantasize about the person you love? In which you intentionally imagine yourself in various situations in which you and the person you love are the lovers? Is it okay to have those thoughts in your head? I’m a Roman Catholic ***and I don’t know myself if my religion permits to fantasize since the word fantasize is so broad with varying definitions. I mean…if we can somehow divide the word fantasize into two categories (no, not fanta and size Capt. Obvious), it would be of Love and Lust. I googled up a few definitions for both words

 

 

Love:

              
• a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; “his love for his work”; “children need a lot of love”
• any object of warm affection or devotion; “the theater was her first love”; “he has a passion for cock fighting”;
• have a great affection or liking for; “I love French food”; “She loves her boss and works hard for him”
• beloved: a beloved person; used as terms of endearment
• a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; “their love left them indifferent to their surroundings”; “she was his first love”
• get pleasure from; “I love cooking”
• a score of zero in tennis or squash; “it was 40 love”
• be enamored or in love with; “She loves her husband deeply”
• sexual love: sexual activities (often including sexual intercourse) between two people; “his lovemaking disgusted her”; “he hadn’t had any love in months”; “he has a very complicated love life”
• sleep together: have sexual intercourse with; “This student sleeps with everyone in her dorm”; “Adam knew Eve”; “Were you ever intimate with this man?” 
  wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

 

 

Lust:

              
• lecherousness: a strong sexual desire
• self-indulgent sexual desire (personified as one of the deadly sins)

 

• crave: have a craving, appetite, or great desire for 
  wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

 

 

 

As you can see, they have similarities as well as differences. My own definiton would be:

 

LOVE: an emotion towards a person in which one feels the need to be close to; to have the wish for someone or more to have wellness in life; something that can make you see who can fill the void in one’s heart.

LUST: a physical crave for the pleasures of the flesh in which sexual arousal maybe arrived; the need to satisfy oneself sexually.              

Others may base this on a religious definition. I for one do not quote information from religion and tell the people that it is a FACT. Simply because religion itself is biased on what it thinks is right. If you ask a Catholic if polygamy in marriage is okay, that person would say no. Ask a muslim, and you get a yes. Ask a Catholic if its okay to have more than one God, the catholic would say its blasphemy. Ask a hindu, and you get a yes. Every religion is simply too biased on what each of them think is good. 

 

Here’s an interesting poem titled the same as the blog you are reading

The difference between love and lust is:

Love is about you.

Lust is about me.

 

If I were to fantasize about someone…would it be about love or lust? which one is predominant? if you dream about having sex with that someone, will it be of love or lust? the answer can never be exact. For the answer will always be conditional. People would answer something like depends on how you have sex with the person.  You might even answer making love is different from having sex. In this day and age…making love and sex are almost the same. The obvious difference would be that in making love, you simply just cherish the person and in having sex is to just objectify the person/s

Let us also consider that dreams are not fantasies, but merely the result of our fantasization. Fantasizing is voluntary. Dreaming is involuntary. We cannot control what we dream about, but we can always give a suggestion by fantasizing.

 

Love has a positive effect on a relationship and even after fights your relationship strengthens because you come closer in making apologies and doing everything in your control to make each other happy.

Because a relationship based on lust is temporary, both partners will eventually start looking for other people to satisfy their needs.

 

It is very true that love has a more good in a relationship than lust alone. Love can have lust, but lust cannot have love. So if a person fantasizes having sex with someone, if love is in thought (and so long as the one fantasizing is not objectifying the other person i.e. no porn sex) then MAYBE sex fantasies like that are very much morally and ethically accepted. A fantasy of lust maybe of purely sexual arousal and pleasurable nature. Most people who masturbate know how to do this very well (if I say so myself *winks*). The fantasy may or may not involve multiple partners and/or various methods of sex i.e. fetishes, bdsm, and the likes. 

 

By definition alone the two differ in that, love is based on an affinity while lust is based solely on desire.

Love has a positive affect on a relationship. In a loving relationship the couple behaves thoughtfully towards each other and is mindful of their partner’s feelings.

A lustful relationship may not necessary have a negative affect on a relationship but it also may not be as positive as a loving relationship. The partners in a lustful relationship place their needs and wants ahead of their partner’s desires.

 

 

I guess we can safely say that love is always positive. That it can only turn bad if it derives itself from a want, and not a need. Love can only be so evil if it were to share the definition of desire. Lust, In my opinion, is a basic human desire for the flesh. Nothing too evil about that. But it is what you do for it that matters. If you fantasize about raping the one you love…that ain’t love no more

 

 

Thank you for reading my blog Have a GOOD ONE!

 

***By the way, I’m not a I devout catholic as I may have lead you to believe. I’m just a person who understands what is right from wrong without the need of a religion to tell me what to do…but I stand by its ways since having a religion has somehow put this world into a state of stability

I think I managed a theory on how Pablo Banila’s brain works

Genius or Annoyance? Click image to view his website

FIRST: a list of sites that involve him upon looking it up on Google

 

Candy Mag = a thread he started and where he is currently active in

 

Candy Mag 2 = a thread which someone made and where he is currently hated in ROFL

 

Brainloops = a simple opinion I found nicely done

 

I blogged about him before…but it was just a heads up on him…’til I read a bunch of blogs that were serious about him and his work.

 

I think he does this not to annoy, but to make people google his name (or he knows that annoying people WILL make you google his name), seeing that his avatars/character icons and usernames often have his name on them. Thats it, no strings attached. Easy to understand huh.

 

I searched information about him and found out that he’s from Philippine Science Highschool. I guess he’s smart enough to know how people’s brains work. Heck, he got me googling his name the moment I saw it in a blog. He got me >_>  And chances are…this blog will work for him since viewing his page maybe his point in all of this.

 

I think it was never his intention for people to make blogs about him…that it was purely coincidential and he must be laughing his arse off because of the “fruits of his labor”, which are making multiple accounts, randomly looking to a person’s contacts, viewing it, then deleting the accounts he made. Simple eh…viewing is only about 1 or 2 clicks. I imagine he must’ve been doing this to like 3 primary people a day, and clicking each of their contacts. A task that is easily done in under 2 hours..depending on internet speeds. 

 

He must’ve figured that if he started doing this on a daily basis…sooner or later, someone’s bound to notice and gets curious and google’s his name…and clicks his website, which so happens to be the only website in the whole web to bear his name.

 

Fast forward to 4-5 months later (theoretically, read below to know why)…Here I am, making a generous donation to his cause. The guy is a genius at this I tell you. I theorize that he might have user accounts for various Philippine based websites such as PinoyExchange, Yehey, Mukamo, etc. He is also aware that he can’t be banned simply by viewing a person’s webpage. So I guess we can’t just report him to multiply or any site that he registered to for abuse…seeing that he just views your page and he deletes all the accounts he used to view you afterwards. To apply the rule of banning, it is obvious that the account must exist. Otherwise..you might as well report a google bot >_>

 

Based on the CM2 link I gave above…he was noticed as early as June 29th 2008. I wonder when was the real date in which he was just starting this plot. And more interesting for me, is the date in which he was just thinking about this grand idea of his and what motivated him at the time.

 

Anyways…I just really am interested to know what kind of a person Pablo Banila is and how his brain works…call me weird and retarded but…the man’s a genius. Chances are…most people who views a site or a blog about him may end up googling him and seeing his website. And knowing how the human psyche works, being that humans are natural trend followers(couldn’t come up with the exact word >.< I forgot) ***, people who googled his name and knew of his “work” may end up blogging about it or talk about him to their friends etc.

 

Here’s his webby incase you missed the picture >_>

 

 

 

*** This applies to MOST but NOT ALL If you’re not one of them, then fine… so don’t go replying to just this single phrase and get all stupid about it XP (and yes…I wrote this so that people will know that I am also aware and so that I may satisfy my inner desire to be part of a group of people with similar interests >_> screw my human psyche)

Sony delays sales of game software over Koran phrase usage

Sony Computer Entertainment Inc said Tuesday it will delay this week’s overseas launch of its latest game software for the PlayStation 3 game console as it has learned that the soundtrack features some phrases from the Koran. SCE is recalling the action game called LittleBigPlanet, which is expected to be a hit, so it can try to modify the parts using words from Islam’s most holy text.

The music in question is “Tapha Niang,” a song performed by Malian musician Toumani Diabate, Sony said.

“One of the background music tracks that was licensed from a record label for use in the game contains two expressions that can be found in the Koran,” the company said in a statement. “We have taken immediate action to rectify this and we sincerely apologize for any offense this may have caused.”

TV commercial festival to be held in Tokyo

The 10th TV Commercial Festival, which has been touring Japan nationwide since March, will be held in Tokyo from 10 p.m. until 5 a.m. on Oct 31 and Nov 1 at Shinjuku Milano theater in Tokyo, screening 500 TV commercials from around the world.

The festival is the Japanese version of “La Nuit des Publivores” which originated in France and has been annually held in Japan since 1999 touring the country nationwide. After Tokyo, the festival will be held in Fukui, Kanazawa, Osaka and Nagoya through next March.

Tickets, which cost 3,800 yen (unreserved) and 4,500 yen (reserved), are available at Ticket Pia and other outlets as well as at the venue.

 

 

Additional Information:

CM Festival Official Website

http://www.cmfestival.com/